Jealousy tends to get all the attention in conversations about non-monogamy, while its counterpart, compersion, the joy felt at a partner's joy, gets far less airtime. This post looks at what research suggests about how the two relate, alongside a warm, personal reflection on gratitude, appreciation, and one way, among many, of holding jealousy and compersion within a polyamorous life.

Psychological safety gets talked about constantly in workplaces, often as a value stated rather than something actually built. Drawing on both organisational research and my own experience of what it feels like when it's absent, when honesty gets shared further than intended, or gets quietly dismissed, this post looks at what genuinely seems to build psychological safety within a team, and what it costs when it isn't there.

There's a common assumption that being kinky must trace back to some past wound, that BDSM interest is a symptom rather than a straightforward preference. It's one of those beliefs that gets repeated often enough to feel like established fact, even though it's rarely tested against actual evidence. This post looks closely at what research comparing BDSM practitioners to the general population has found on trauma history, personality, attachment, and psychological wellbeing, and includes an honest, tentative reflection from inside the field of psychology on why even destigmatising research still tends to search for an explanation before it lets a preference simply exist. If you've ever quietly wondered the same thing about yourself, this is written with you in mind.

People often only know me as "the counsellor," but that's only ever been half the picture. I trained in occupational psychology first, then counselling, and later coaching, because I kept meeting people, and moments, where one tool alone wasn't quite the right fit. Here's why I trained in both, and how counselling and coaching actually work together across my workplace and identity-focused practice.