Blogs
Building My Connections: Reflections on Polyamorous Relationships
Living in polyamorous relationships has taught me that communication is the heartbeat of connection. Some days, coordinating needs, schedules, and emotions across multiple partners can feel like trying to predict the weather. In this post, I share five personal reflections on navigating these "relationship climates"—from communicating without fear, to embracing quiet moments, to balancing needs. These are my experiences; everyone’s journey will be different, but noticing the shifts and being gentle with ourselves can make the storms easier to navigate.
The Garden Behind the Wall: Celebrating My Kinky Authenticity
For years, I treated my kink like a secret, living in two worlds: the professional daylight and the private sanctuary of my desires. Over time, I’ve learned that my kink is not something to hide or fix, it is my Sanctuary Garden, the place where I feel fully seen, safe, and alive. This is my reflection on stepping into that space, tending to what matters, and celebrating all parts of myself, even those the outside world may not yet understand.
Reinstalling the Self: Why Transition Feels Like Switching Systems
Transition is rarely a straight line. For me, it has felt like rebooting my whole sense of self, learning to exist fully in a body and identity that finally feel authentic. Some days are slow, some days feel like breakthroughs, but every glitch, pause, or recalibration has revealed parts of myself I never knew were waiting. This blog is a personal reflection on navigating that journey and finding the rhythm of living as my true self.
Managing My Resources: Work Stress, Investment, and Leaving It at the Door
Some counsellors also have another job. I work in an office role within education, and for a long time I didn’t realise how much of myself I was leaving there at the end of each day. I wasn’t lazy or disengaged. I cared, and because I cared, I kept investing more time, energy, and attention than I actually had available.
This reflection explores how I began thinking about stress in terms of resources, learning when effort is helpful and when it quietly drains me, and why leaving work at work has been one of the most important changes I’ve made for my wellbeing and my relationships.
Transition is rarely a straight line. For me, it has felt like rebooting my whole sense of self, learning to exist fully in a body and identity that finally feel authentic. Some days are slow, some days feel like breakthroughs, but every glitch, pause, or recalibration has revealed parts of myself I never knew were waiting. This blog is a personal reflection on navigating that journey and finding the rhythm of living as my true self.